If You Fixed Her Crown

What would happen if you fixed her crown instead of tearing it down? What would happen if instead of judging a book by its cover or not giving someone the benefit of the doubt we did the opposite and showed kindness?

I was sitting alone waiting for my kids to meet me at the car after school one day and I overheard a pair of moms talking. I couldn’t make out exactly what they were saying and I was by no means trying to eavesdrop, but I could hear muffled words like “Did you see what she was wearing?” … “I couldn’t believe it”…. “Didn’t flatter her”….”not attractive”…

I mean, I guess they could have been talking about someone’s dog.. but honestly, who am I kidding, they were probably talking about a woman they both knew.

Why are we SO quick to judge and gossip about another when we know that if the tables were turned, it would hurt so deeply.

I’ve had it happen to me. It hurt beyond words. Another woman who I put so much of my trust into, betrayed me in the worst way possible. Spreading rumors about my parenting. It hurt so deep. She could have called me fat, ugly or stupid – anything. But to dig into something that I’ve dedicated nine years of my life to.. was brutal. My kids mean everything to me, I do what I do so I can stay home with them and love on them for as long as I possibly can. When they hurt, my heart hurts. When they cry, I cry. I feel like a part of me lives in each one of my kids.. so when someone judges that part of me, it hurts so so much.

When this happened a few years ago I honestly thought it was God giving me the biggest reality check. I wouldn’t say I was a mean or judgemental person by any means. But I definitely didn’t fix someone tiara. I would sit back and watch them struggle. I’d pass on the empty “I’ll pray for you” and then actually not pray for them because I feel like that blanket statement is the saddest of them all. ( Unless you actually do – then GO YOU )

What about instead of being jealous of someone, you praised them for their hard work because nothing comes free. But in my life, I’ve worked dang hard for everything I have. The little bit we have.

Do you see what I’m saying? We women NEED each other. We need to stand in each others corners. But yet, we stand divided. Jealous, angry and pretentious. Instead of loving on each other and using our God-given talents to lift each other up we do the complete opposite. Can you imagine what kind of world we would live in if we all linked arms and ran?

So today I challenge you, go against the flow. Be kind. Extend a hand

and above all,

Fix her tiara.

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